Thought for the Week

 

Sunday 4 October  – Trinity 17

 

Collect

Almighty God,

you have made us for yourself,

and our hearts are restless till they find their rest in you:

pour your love into our hearts and draw us to yourself,

and so bring us at last to your heavenly city

where we shall see you face to face;

through Jesus Christ your Son our Lord,

who is alive and reigns with you,

in the unity of the Holy Spirit,

one God, now and for ever. Amen.

 

Readings

Genesis 2, 18 – 24

 

Psalm 8   

 

Hebrews 2, (1 – 8) & 9 – 18   

 

Mark 10, 2 – 9    

 

 

 

Last Sunday’s lessons were all about inclusion – in one form or another. Jesus had to turn around the popular notion of “whoever is not for us is against us,” instead proclaiming that “whoever is not against us must be for us”. His teaching task was aimed at his own disciples who wanted to tighten the circle around Jesus and themselves, to the exclusion of others who were also trying to do some good works in the form of healings.

 

Today Jesus has turned his attention once more to the fractious Pharisees who have cooked up some more hard and legalistic questions for him, hoping once again to either embarrass or entrap him.

 

Needless to say, they did not succeed – at least not in their own devious ambitions. Unfortunately, they seem to have succeeded in embarrassing and entrapping us instead.

 

To offer a meaningful homily means that the preacher should understand the text, and in this case, understanding the text means understanding a very complicated set of rules and practices. These go back as far as Moses, the author of the Book of Deuteronomy – itself the “Second Book of the Law” implying that there had been previous rules and regulations to think about and worry about.

 

Without delving into this mess, at least a little bit, we just can’t grasp what all the fuss was about, in the account of the debate between the Jesus and the Pharisees that we have heard about this morning. And unless we grasp what all the fuss was about, then we have to face a disturbing question in our own times and about our own lives and society. That question is – how have we arrived at the stage of being so permissive nowadays, when the words of the gospel seem so sternly at odds with what we readily accept?  

 

Firstly, then, we are told in Deuteronomy that divorce is allowed. All a man had to do was write a certificate of divorce, and he was rid of his wife. She had no similar rights. In fact, Moses was actually adding an element of justice to an old practice. Formerly, when a man divorced his wife she had nowhere to go, and could not remarry, Moses changed the law, providing the woman an element of mercy, and rescuing her from the poverty of abandonment. That, then, explains Jesus’ comment about the law having been changed by Moses because “of your hardness of heart”.

 

Of course, some of the old rules made practical sense as well. The Jews were not allowed to marry near relatives or members of their own families. This rule, like some of the dietary rules, does indicate that the leaders of the Jews were very observant. Just as eating some foods seemed to increase the danger of disease and illness, so they observed, did begetting children with close relatives result in exaggerated family traits, and sometimes deformities or serious other flaws,

 

The Jews were not allowed to marry outsiders – such as the Canaanites. Such marriages would open the family to idolatry, or to straying from the worship of the one God.

 

By marrying and having children within the Jewish faith system, the race became stronger. It has been suggested that this rule, strictly enforced, was one of the main factors in the restoration of the Jewish race after their return from captivity in Babylon. It seems to make sense, because of course, many other races disappeared – the Moabites, the Jebusites and all the other “ites” we read about in the Bible.

 

The priestly tribe had very strict marriage rules too. Priests were not allowed to marry harlots for instance. What!! I would certainly hope not! But remember, ritual harlots were an accepted part of society, as was their profession. They could marry almost anyone if they wanted to. A Levite priest, however, was only allowed to marry a virgin Israelite.

 

There were a number of complications as well. One of them was the Roman law under which the Jews were living at the time of this debate.  Roman law did provide for a woman to divorce her husband, and many women with cause took advantage of it.

 

So, with the rules for marriage clearly understood, (I hope), we return to the matter of divorce. I’m sure Jesus was fully aware of an ongoing debate about divorce – not only the basic need to have divorce available, but, significantly, the grounds for it. One school of thinking insisted that the only acceptable grounds for divorce were sexual misconduct. The other strong school insisted that anything that displeased the husband, no matter how trivial, was grounds for divorce.

 

The Pharisees as usual were using these various debates to try to get Jesus to go in one direction or the other so that they could accuse him of partiality. Not wishing to become embroiled in interpretive controversy, he instead turns the focus towards what the ideal situation should be. He chooses as his vehicle, the ancient words of the Book of Genesis that reinforce the equality of two persons in a partnership. “Bone of my bone, and flesh of my flesh” Adam says, as he is delighted with the companion God has made possible for him. Not a separate species, not a new creation, but a person grown from his very own elements.

 

Perhaps we can now put together the two components of what Jesus is saying. On the one hand he wants to reinforce the best intentions of the joining of a couple for life. His words indicate that the ideal situation is indissoluble, based on two people deciding to live and act out their lives in a single accord, free from influences which might cause them to stumble and part.

 

On the other hand, his references to Moses being tolerant and helpful, do indicate that he knows that we do not live in perfect world. That expression – “hardness of heart” – is usually meant to express sin. The world is flawed and it is sin that intrudes, one way or another, on the ideal partnership. 

 

Maybe you’ve been reading about the celebrated case of Father Cutie. Given the circumstances I think his is an unfortunate name! Father Cutie is – or was – a Catholic priest from somewhere in Central America. During his ministry he met a young woman and fell in love. He left the Catholic Church and applied to be received as a priest in the American/Anglican church. Not an unusual story, really. Almost all priests who want to switch do so for what, I have to say, are the wrong reasons – if it is fair to say that love is ever wrong!

 

The problem is that Father Cutie likes to live up to his name. He has become a snazzy dresser and loves publicity. He likes to appear on Television and gives interviews readily. The press loves this kind of stuff and have made him the high priest of “Love conquers all”. Those who think catholic priests should be allowed to marry, have made him an icon. One wonders though, that if the vows of priesthood can be taken so lightly, what about his vows of marriage?

 

Nevertheless, relationships sometimes die, and many factors can conspire in bringing about the death of a marriage. Jesus allows that it can happen, and does not prohibit divorce as an option, although he plainly supports life-long unions as even we know them.

 

I suspect that this discourse with the Pharisees would have lasted quite a bit longer had Jesus needed to know about, and understand, the full range of requirements, ramifications and threats that a modern marriage must sustain.

 

Marriage and divorce in that patriarchal culture were primarily legal arrangements, not sacramental ones. Today, marriage is both legal and sacramental. I can’t say quite the same thing about divorce, which is mainly legal, though the church is struggling to bring about a pastoral element. We already respond pastorally to those encountering divorce – either party, or both, and there have been some experimental liturgies to help make a parting of the ways something we can accept as an opportunity to be healed and move on.

 

The Christian community is called to respond with healing, reconciliation and compassion toward shattered relationships.  We are called to accept, as Jesus does, the realities of human relationships, and how vulnerable they are, 

 

You may be wondering what the last part of the reading today has to do with all the above. It is that charming piece about Jesus making a fuss over the little children and blessing them. The short answer is – nothing.  The two pieces of the reading come from different sources. The one event does not follow upon the other. Still, there are two little connections that seem important to me. The first is that Jesus reinforces his insistence upon inclusion. The children have every right o come to him, to be included in the circle, and to learn from him.

 

The second is that Jesus reinforces community as an extension of family.

 

In a nutshell, the whole gospel message today reinforces partnerships in the context of community, and reminds us that the care of every individual, grown up or child, is a responsibility we must all share.

 

Revd Tony Jewiss: Anglican Chaplaincy of Midi-Pyrénées & Aude

 

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